Women: 5 things you should do before geting laid with a man

Things you should do before laying down with a man – When you do it can make ALL the difference. When is it okay to have sex? How do you decide? This is such a critical discussion! You may think “I’m not even dating yet … who cares!”

But the decision may be closer than you think, and I want you to be prepared. Sex can be a sublime part of a relationship, however for ladies, it can also wreak havoc on your emotional state. Having sex too soon can also mess up an otherwise budding relationship.

Getting this right is about clearly defining the boundary and behavior you will follow under all circumstances. This is key to maintaining your dignity and confidence, not falling for the wrong guy, and keeping safe.

Here's some guidance: 

1. Know what you want and keep your eyes on the prize.

Are you looking for frolic with a great orgasm or for a loving, decent man to spend your life with? Figure it out and always head toward that goal. (Just like you do in the other aspects of your life.) And be sure you’re not headed there alone.

Before you sleep with him, have “the talk.” What are his intentions and relationship goals? How does he feel about you? Is he willing to give what you need? Don’t guess on questions like these, ladies — you have to have “the talk.”

2. Don’t drink.

There’s a lot of emotion and body chemistry flying around when man meets woman. Do everything you can to keep your wits about you. Alcohol is actually a stimulant and doesn’t make you more charming (except to another drunk person.) If you must, savor one nice glass of wine. But until you decide it’s a good time to be intimate, lay off the booze.

3. Answer the question “Is he just hot or is he a hubby?”

If you’re looking for your husband or life companion, you have to approach dating with as much maturity and objectivity as you can muster. Muster it, girlfriend, and decide if he’s just charming and makes you tingle or if he has real depth and relationship potential.

If he’s all tingle and no substance, I say slow the heck down or even run for the hills. If you have sex with this man, odds are you will fall for him … because that’s what we do. And then you’rehooked. I’d rather you wait and get hooked after you decide a man is good, kind, and interested.

4. Read the Dalai Lama.

In his book, The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living, the Dalai Lama discusses about joy versus bliss. His advice: always ask yourself “Will this bring me happiness?” I try to follow this in my life in general; it’s a powerful guide to making good decisions. It’s especially handy when you’re considering getting physical with a man.

Stop and ask yourself:will this make me feel great and make me upbeat? Because you know from your many encounters that something that feels good now will not necessarily bring you joy.(You know what I’m talkin’ about.)

5. Don’t do it if you can’t talk about it.

If you can’t sit down with him and have an adult conversation about safe sex and about your relationship, do not sleep with him! That’s all I need to say on this point.

I’m all for having fun and enjoying some amazing sexual intimacy. But if you’ve got love on your mind, follow these tips. I assure you that they will limit your disappointment and help you find the happiness you so deserve.

Remember — always be good to yourself and love yourself as much as I do!

Source: Yourtango